A family-focused occasion like Christmas can be particularly difficult, but don’t be tempted to ignore it or play it down: providing children with the sort of traditional Christmas they enjoyed before bereavement is part of maintaining the routine that will help them cope with their loss.
Where possible, involve children in planning for the occasion and talk to them about how best they feel it should be marked. A special occasion, when all the family are together, provides an opportunity to talk about the person who died, share happy memories of them and talk about the grief you are all feeling.
If you do have a plan on how the day should be marked, try not to be too rigid about it – allow for flexibility and change depending on how the child may be feeling on the day. Encourage togetherness, but respect the child’s wishes if they choose to cope with the difficulty by spending time alone to simply watch television, listen to music or read. Let the child know they can change their mind and join in later.
The following suggestions are designed to support the whole family and remember the lost loved one during a special occasion:
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